To invite love it, we need to first get clear on what it is we want. Here you’ll find guiding questions to shape and focus your own relationship Vision.
Today (meaning the day I wrote this article) happened to be that magical time of New Year’s, right between the last day of the departing year and the dawn of the first day of the coming year. At this special time, I’m always inspired to take inventory of the past year, to review what I accomplished, and what I didn’t get around to doing. How I grew and stretched, and how I moved closer to my relationship Vision. I like to do this before I start leaning into my desires and visioning the coming year.
As I sit here reflecting on the past year and begin creating my vision for the New Year, it strikes me how similar this time of year naturally is to the process of developing a relationship Vision and having a deep sense of purpose. While the New Year’s version only covers one year at a time, and the relationship Vision is intended to cover the span of a particular relationship from a few years up to an entire lifetime, many of the questions reflected upon are the same.
Here are some thoughts to ponder related to your relationship Vision whatever state it might be in, from an early draft and not yet in existence, outside your dreams, to a long-term marriage that longs for a passion revival.
- What lessons have you learned this past year, personally and together?
- Which lessons are you most grateful for?
- If given the chance, what would you do differently in the future?
- If given the chance, what would you do more of?
- Can you forgive yourself and make peace with whatever the answers are to the above questions and release the past?
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- What is your deepest desire?
- What is your strongest intention?
- What is your most heartfelt Vision for relationship?
Your relationship Vision brings purpose and direction to your relationship and to your dating. If you haven’t found them yet, it makes it clear for you to see what you desire, where you are going, and what gifts and contributions you bring.
Think of your relationship Vision as the overarching long-distance vision you aspire to create. It allows you to get very intentional about the whole process, to develop a clear mission that supports the vision, and to then select strategies, priorities, and tasks for how to get there, one doable step at a time. It’s a way to break the big and sometimes overpowering task of finding a partner into smaller, bite-sized chewable pieces that you don’t have to choke on because they are too big and seem overwhelming.
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